So, last night at work I was talking with this guy I work with..who annoys me 90% of the time..but anyways, he was talking about his ex-girlfriend and how he was having these doubts about her supposedly cheating on him over the summer and all that great stuff. So, he asked me what I thought. Well...honestly to me it sounded a little sketchy. She has told him that she kept this guy friend of hers around for comic relief..It sounded sketch to me because if I told that to a boyfriend about someone I think that could be a lie. But, it sounded like he was really just upset about her having a guy friend. He didn't want her talking to other guys because he had trust issues. Which, I totally understand. If I ever have the opportunity to be in a relationship and the guy has a lot of girl friends I might be a little wary on the trust too. But, the more we talked the more it was obvious he had screwed up the relationship long before she started having this guy friend. He wouldn't really listen to her. And guys, a sure way to get in the dog house with a woman is not listening to her. I know...us women like to tell you every detail of our lives. I have the habit of taking too long to tell stories to people sometimes. We just like to talk. Honestly, we want you to be able to know everything about our day. From what we had at lunch to the evil backstabbing coworker..we're going to tell you. Be prepared to stay on the phone with us for a while. It's just how it goes.
When I was in Virginia for that private show with those British boys and Edward Hartline..I overheard probably the most truthful advice ever. Sam Bradley was talking to a camera and had begun to give this lady's son (via video) some girl advice. His advice? Just ask a girl how she is doing. He then said that's terrible advice to give a six year old...but I think that's actually really good advice..as long as you listen to her answer. There is always something going on in our lives that is a big deal. Always. Just ask us how we are and we'll take care of the rest of the conversation.
I have a guy friend who sometimes I feel like I talk too much and concentrate on me more than I should, but he listens to me...well, at least sometimes. Like, I have this thing about dolphins..they are my absolute favorite animal. One day I hope to swim with them. It's kind of like my sister's thing with penguins..just not as crazy. Anyways, I had told him that I really wanted a dolphin pillow pet, because let's face it...pillow pets are the greatest invention EVER. And, that year for Christmas my aunt bought me a lady bug one..which I totally love! It's just hard to cuddle with something poking you in the eye..ya know? Anyways, I was a little bummed I didn't get a dolphin one..But, unknown to me this guy friend had bought me one for me for Christmas. And..sure it wasn't the most expensive gift, and it came with a homemade card..but he had listened to what I wanted. That is what made that gift so awesome. I love my dolphin pillow pet. And I literally take it with me every time I go on a trip.
Women like to be listened to. We like when you pay attention to the small things. It's really the little things that count. And listen to Sam's advice..just ask us how we are..and we'll take care of the rest for you. But, be interactive in the conversation..sometimes we need a more level headed view on things.
Also, girls...don't just expect guys to be mind readers...You can't drop subtle hints and expect him to know that you want something. Also, if he seems to be really trying...you need to give the poor guy a break. He's not going to be perfect..and there will be bumps along the way..but, a guy who actually acts like he gives a crap is one to hold onto. :)
Thanks for reading! I love you all like mad!
XO
Kymber.
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